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E16 | Just Do It, Stay Curious, and Confronting Negative Self-Talk
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Embarking on a path of positive self-discovery can be as life-altering as it is necessary— a truth we've come to know intimately. This week, we pull back the curtain on the extraordinary power of positive self-talk and the unwavering support found in faith-filled relationships. Our personal tales and the wisdom gleaned from them highlight the importance of daily renewing our minds and the strength we draw from our community. We've grown from a once-monthly to a weekly source of inspiration, driven by an insatiable curiosity that keeps our conversations and our family of listeners flourishing. Join us, share your story, and together let's build a home where we can learn, question, and grow.
Remember those youthful days in the church, when curiosity met encouragement and our minds were vibrant with possibility? This chapter revisits the significance of a supportive church community in fostering a positive mindset. We share stories of resilience and the undeniable impact of mentorship within the church. Reflecting on the moments that have shaped us, we underscore the need for environments that not only tolerate curiosity but also celebrate it. From a pastor's journey of losing his future platform to criticism to finding his voice from critique, we unpack the lessons learned about the importance of perseverance and the transformative nature of encouragement.
Confronting negative self-talk is an art form balanced delicately between humility and empowerment, a theme we unravel with care. Scripture provides a blueprint for overcoming adversity, a concept we explore while sharing personal struggles and triumphs in battling destructive inner dialogues. The essence of our conversation lies in the realization that our stories, large or small, are worth stewarding with truth and grace. As we endeavor to align our steps with our goals and God's word, we invite you to consider how a community of support and the practice of positive self-talk can illuminate the path toward your own empowerment.
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Just Do It - Stay Curious
RhettWe were in these moments .
JustinThere was this innocence , this curiosity and what's your thinking like , what's your self-talk like . If you have that positive mindset , there's no end to what you can accomplish .
RhettHow do I put myself in a position to where I have relationships that are also affirming what God's Word says about me ? We're not trying to just overcome our self-talk on our own . We actually have people who are helping us in that Keep going and continually , daily , have the renewing of your mind .
RhettWhat is going on Armchair Authentic Podcast family . It's great to have you back for another episode . With Rhett and Justin man , we are trying to help you fulfill your God assignments by having real conversations about real life with real people . Man , we are looking forward to today's content , but before we get into it , always want to say thank you to every single one of you who have taken the time to rate and review the podcast . Man , it means so much to us , but more than that , it is a great way that we can serve people who aren't on this journey yet .
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RhettWhen we look back in February and whenever we started this thing , we thought you know , how cool would it be if we just had one a month . And here we are trying this audacious goal of doing one every week .
JustinYeah , it went from monthly to biweekly to now we're at weekly and we're seeing how it works and , who knows , you might have a couple coming out a week as we get to some bonus content . But it's a crazy goal that we've taken on and it's also been quite the learning experience as we've had to dive in and stretch ourself . But it's also , I think , it's possible for us because it really does sound like conversations we have every week together .
RhettAnyway , I think it's interesting . A lot of the questions I get asked a lot are how did you learn how to do this ? Like ? Where did this come from , like ? How did ? How did you know the to do this ? Like where did this come from , like how did ? How did you know the equipment to buy ? How do you , how do you even do it ? And I'm like , well , we're just curious .
RhettAnd so we've just taken the time to go . You know we're going to figure this out and I think , uh , go to the college of YouTube . Youtube is a great university , it really is . Um , and if you're willing to do the , take the time to do some research and go online and look through the fluff to get to the meat . You'll eventually find , wow , okay , and you'll find something good and you're like well , how does this compare to other things ? And next thing , you know you've spent weeks looking at it and then you finally dive into , okay , well , I think I need this equipment , I think I need this microphone , need this headset , and then we just start pushing buttons until we figure it out . And I think that's always been kind of our mentality , going back to even the days in the youth group .
JustinYeah , we've always been researchers , like we naturally have curiosity about us and yeah , those were great days because it's like we 15 , 16 year olds I remember getting into even our , the church that we first went to when we surrendered our life to Christ . We were in those closets . I mean , people hadn't been in those closets for like a decade and do you remember looking through that and we're pulling out these amps , that we're pulling out speakers and wires .
RhettYeah , these amps and wires , and they were , they were , they had seen their better days . Some of these were made in the seventies and you knew , knew it because of the cabinet on these monitors . They were carpet .
JustinThey were like blue carpeted monitors that were the stage monitors .
Rhettthat might as well have been a 12-inch subwoofer in the back of somebody's car , but I always remember the guy who was over the music and he would kind of lead with his keyboard every Wednesday and he had it like he liked it .
JustinAnd then these two guys named Rhett and Justin- would become curious . He would show up and we had added speakers to the stage .
RhettThere's wires everywhere .
JustinWe tried to create what surround sound was before . That was even a thing and it's like we've got speakers set up everywhere and I remember him coming in just like kind of annoyed with us , Like what are you doing ?
RhettYeah .
JustinBut we would , we would always work on , we would just write songs and we just thought . Ooh , isn't it great to have a bunch of these speakers on the stage .
RhettYeah , I think what's interesting about this is this is pre-internet . You know , this is what are we .
RhettI'm 46 , turned 47 in June , and now we have the internet and we have the ability to go online and kind of , you know , do research on stuff that might've been in a closet or stuff that we found , but we didn't have any of that . So we found stuff and we started plugging in wires and probably plugging them into the wrong places and and taking a soundboard that was probably already tweaked , perfect and going . Huh , I wonder what this EQ does and this button does , and if you want to plug this and plug it into here , what happens ?
Justinand you know a lot of screeches and noises and but I I think it speaks to you know a lot of them um , our character , you know , and and just the ability to go .
RhettHey , you know , I've got some crap here . How do I make this crap sound good ?
Rhettbecause really that that was , I mean , it wasn't state-of-the-art equipment oh no , but not at all , but we did the best , we mean we did the best we could with what was stored away in a closet that had been forgotten the island of misfit toys , if you will , of sound equipment that had seen its better day and we made the most of it . And I mean , you couldn't have told me that it didn't sound great , Because in my mind , man , we were rocking out every Wednesday night .
JustinWell , and we didn't sound great because in my mind , man , we were rocking out every Wednesday night . Well , and we didn't personally have any equipment , so just to have access to this was like wow . And so you always hear the phrase another man's trash is another man's treasure . We found treasure out of this trash . But what we didn't know , though , was I remember we found some of these speakers , and they were colored . The color of them was orange , but actually the brand name was orange .
RhettOkay , I don't remember that .
JustinI just , oh , I remember now because , being a guitarist , there's actually a brand , it's orange , like that's orange brand Very boutique .
JustinIf you have certain old ones , especially from the seventies . It's a collector and we didn't know that we had something special there because basically when we went into that closet , leaders in the church began emptying out that closet and we would just sell them as people wanted . It , almost like pennies on the dollar . And people bought those orange speakers and what they're probably thinking . Are they really going to sell me this for like 15 bucks ? Because they got rid of them and I learned later how valuable those are .
RhettWell , I was sitting here thinking , like even about the things we didn't know . I didn't know what an XLR cable was . Now I was holding one in my hand , but I didn't know what it was called . I just knew that , oh , wow , okay , I'll take this cable that looks really weird and try plugging it into these things . And oh , my microphone works when you do that , okay , I just , I don't know , man , there's something about just being curious and getting your hands dirty and putting yourself out there and stewarding Well , what , what is in your hand at the moment and you know , that's what I tell people about this podcast and what we're doing and how we're just going on this journey is we're just trying to steward . Well , we're trying to take ourselves to school , whether it be the equipment or even the way that we're processing the content , even with our conversations , in a way that's just trying to go . You know what we're just . We're just doing this . You know the Nike . Remember the just do it . I mean , I wrote that down earlier . I was like , just do it .
JustinYeah .
RhettI was reminded . So I was in twin falls this past couple of weeks ago . But I was reminded , so I was in Twin Falls this past couple of weeks ago and I was there . We were doing a production shoot for an At the Movies series with my pastor there and we're setting up the equipment . We got the camera out , we've got the lighting and all that no-transcript this Can you help me ? And getting them on FaceTime . And and I even went to YouTube and I was like how do you do lighting for a talking headshot and learning the angles and watching hours of video ? And next thing , you know , we're in this opportunity to record a talking headshot for at the movies .
RhettAnd I did this actually when I was lead pastor at our church at One Life and it was an incredible series and it's a lot of fun to do . But here I am being able to serve another pastor , another church , with some production elements and doing it at a high level , and they're curious like how did you learn how to do it ? And I just think it comes down to a leadership principle of staying curious . So if you're listening to this and you're holding yourself back because you don't think you know enough to do . Whatever it is that you want to do , I would just say , hey look , you don't have to know everything , just do it .
RhettGo to school , youtube , meet some people , go to the conference , whatever it might be , put yourself in circles of people that are doing what you love , and I just think , with media now and YouTube and the internet , it's just so beneficial to helping , empowering you . And the reason I mentioned the equipment that we did when the youth group and we were talking about that is because you might be thinking , well , I don't have the money to invest in these certain things . Well , you don't really with what's available to you online alone . I mean , you really there's so many free things that are out there . And I would just say , if you take advantage of what's in your hand and just make the most of it , you'll be amazed at how God will bless that and put you in a position to you know , um , have what you need for the next season .
JustinYeah , it's amazing how your thoughts really can can impact what you do , because we didn't have an ounce of thought that someone's going to get upset with us for being curious .
RhettNo .
JustinWe just set it up .
Cultivating Curiosity in Our Youth
JustinI remember one night this was years later , but I still just had this innocence of thought I tried to run sound because I was training up another guy to lead worship . I went up there and read sound and I'm tweaking all these things . I don't know what I'm doing other than just being curious and I'm turning on these different effects . And the leader didn't know I'm the guy running sound . So at some point I'm thinking this must sound awesome . Of course I'm up in a balcony , so you don't even get a true sound of the room . I run back down . At some point the leader comes up and I'm like what you think about the sound ? He doesn't know it's me and he was like I've never heard this room sound so terrible you're like what I'm like what'd you say ?
Justinhe's like oh , it sounds awful . Would you go up there and tell the audio guy to like stop doing whatever he's doing . I was like yeah , yeah , and I ran upstairs to to basically try to fix what I did , but my mind I never took it like he just insulted me . I'm not good enough . There was just this curiosity of oh well , I tried .
Rhettthat didn't work , and as I started making the adjustment .
JustinBut for so many positive kind of outlets like that , where your wiring can go that way , there's the negative side too . But what I love about the positive side is do you remember the movie we Grew Up watching , young Guns ? Oh yeah , of course I love the unassuming side of the . Emilio Estevez plays the character Billy the Kid and I love the scene how he would just get under everybody on his team skin , but he just thought that everybody loved him . And so I remember the character Doc Scurlock , who was played by Kiefer Sutherland , and there's a scene where Emilio Estevez is talking to some of the guys and he called him Doc and he's like you know , doc , he likes me . And the next scene it's a cut scene to wherever Doc is and Doc says I can't stand him .
RhettAnd he's venting about Billy the Kid .
JustinI love that , but I just love that positive mindset of just like they like me .
RhettYeah , well , I think it's interesting .
RhettI'm sitting here thinking through the lens of trying to encourage somebody to take a next step and to do in the in , just to make the most of what they have in their hand right now and stop waiting for the opportunity to present itself , and you just create that opportunity .
RhettBut a lot of times there is this negative self-talk in people that are like , well , I can't do it , but I think what's interesting about us ? People that are like , well , I can't do it , but I think what's interesting about us ? At least at that age we're talking 16 , 17 years old we didn't have or at least I can speak for me , I did not have a lot of negative self-talk in those moments and the church that we were in was very encouraging and very just open-handed with allowing us to experiment and to be curious and to not talk us out of the opportunity and go . You can't do this , you shouldn't touch this and you can't stay within these boundaries . It was no , we're glad that you're here , have fun and learn . And they didn't necessarily say that , but we were in an environment to where we weren't , at least at that time , having to work through negative self-talk of going .
RhettI can't do this . They won't allow me to touch this and they don't want me to go into this closet and pull this out . And even if they did , I didn't hear it . We did it anyway . But I don't . I mean like I don't remember them doing that . But I think there's a lot to be said about that , because certain environments people grow up in and I think we could have stories on this and as we grow older and how different people and experiences can affect your self-talk in your life to keep you from doing the things God is asking you to do or pursuing a passion or a dream . But at that moment in life I was very thankful . Looking back to go , you know we had a very supportive people in a local church that was creating a life-giving environment for us to flourish in our curiosity .
JustinYeah , we could go wherever we wanted to . It seemed like there was complete freedom . We could walk between youth room , we could walk into the auditorium , we could try to set up stuff , and there probably was some correction of like hey , try not to mess with this . We didn't take it like , oh , we can't do this . I think two thoughts you have , initial automatic thoughts , are more in that positive way . Second is when you are corrected and you even have that chance where it might be , where you now hold back .
JustinYou're not going to just do it anymore . That's where it's important that you , as a leader , step in and reaffirm that hey , I love what you're doing . It reminds me , if you even jump back to we've heard it from our pastor before the first time he ever spoke at the church he came from .
JustinHe got up there delivered a message . He saw his pastor on the front row I mean writing notes , and even our pastor's like man , he was getting blessed , I thought so he goes to lunch with him the next day to get the feedback . And the pastor basically had seven pages of notes of how awful it was and how actually this part was unscriptural . And Pastor Chris is like I'm never speaking again and he's like no , you're actually going to speak next Sunday . What I hear even in that story . To take it further , the leader in that moment had what could have been a devastating shift from positive thought of I can speak . You just got ripped to shreds . If he would have just stopped there and not let him speak again . There's a chance he goes home and he says that's one thing I know I'm not going to do . I'm never going to stand in front of people again . But his leader reaffirmed it and gave some adjustments and said go do it again . But his leader reaffirmed it and gave some adjustments and said go do it again . Just like , if you think about as we've been growing up all these years and different opportunities that have happened , I don't think in those days that we're talking about . I never received that slap on the wrist that says stay away and it kept
Cognitive Dissonance
Justinus curious . But the moments where I've been told , no , we don't do this , that's where sometimes the curiosity stops . If it's a conflicted no .
JustinI can remember preparing some songs for a summer camp and I had just that wonder , that excitement . He told me to prepare some songs to present to him that we're going to be doing at youth camp all week long . I was the worship leader . I had so many new songs I was excited about and so I presented to him . And of those 15 songs , I presented about 10 of them . He said , hey , we need to cut this , we need to cut this , we need to cut this . I was like , oh , what's going on , like I don't understand . And he started telling me some words that these songs had in it . Here's an example this song , justin says the word weak . We don't say the word weak , we're not weak , we're warriors , we are overcom . It wasn't like a hey , will you understand this ? With me . It was just a cutoff , like , no , none of these songs , we only sing the songs that do this . And he laid this out for me .
JustinI was shifted in a way that didn't necessarily back up what my deep belief system was . I actually didn't really back up the leadership of the church's belief system . But here I was from my direct report , if you will telling me this is how it is and it ended up creating such a cognitive dissonance where I just kind of paused , the curiosity left and of course I moved on . Things ended up going great , but right there in that relationship it was never the same and my curiosities in that youth ministry for that season completely ended because I was more robotic , taking orders of what I can do , and we've talked in the past about being plastic this plastic side of me took over and just ran the drills , ran the play not knowing why or actually believing the play that I'm running . You and I just did a staff retreat with the church that we're at Church of the Highlands and Highlands College and there was actually a moment it's cool how you have these little moments that remind you of hey , keep staying curious . You weren't wrong , be curious , keep learning , stay innocent .
JustinOur pastor got on the stage and he just starts kind of spontaneously singing this worship song that really fit the moment .
JustinAnd he's singing this song that actually says a line in it that says , though I'm weak and poor , all I have is yours . It's funny that we're talking 25 years later , but I go back to that moment . And it's funny how you got to have these continual renewings of the mind , because I can fall back into some of those automatic thoughts that went more negative , not positive . Instead of the Billy the Kid , he likes me , I was more into the oh , we can't do that . That's my automatic thought . We can't go in that direction . And a renewing of my mind of my pastor in that moment singing these words and I'm looking at the face of this guy that I love and it was almost righting what I think were some of those wrongs where they were mistaken . But I had let that become an automatic thought pattern of a truth that was dissonance for so long . And to hear him sing that was so freeing for me , even 25 years later , that constant renewing of my mind of , hey , you're walking in the right way , stay curious .
RhettYeah . And if we go back , that gentleman that was leading in that direction in your youth did not stay within that organization very long because it came to light that theological dissonance , to use your word , came to light and so they went different directions , and rightfully so . But even though you know somebody's wrong in what they're speaking over you and how they might even be trying to coach you or train you , it's amazing the power that those words can speak into your life . You know they're wrong . You're like , okay , this doesn't line up .
RhettGod's word says , yeah , a broken and contrite spirit is what the Lord desires for us . To come to Him and just realize we're nothing without God . He is our
Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
Rhetteverything . That's the heart behind that whole verse . It's like not to come in pride and arrogance , but there is a side of Scripture that also speaks to greater is he that's within us than he that's within the world . The same spirit that rose Christ from the dead lives within us and we are overcomers by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony . And the joy of the Lord is our strength . You know there's there's both sides , but the empowerment of all that Christ wants to do in us comes from the humility of understanding that without Christ we are I mean , we are broken , like literally , and so there's nothing wrong with making those statements , because it's truth and it's scriptural , and even David prayed these , who is one of the greatest leaders on the face of the planet . And so there was just a discrepancy on somebody that came into an organization that we weren't aligned scripturally or theologically and so he took it to the extreme . But it's amazing how that impacted you , 25 plus years later , as a grown man , you know and have a family and doing incredible things in ministry , that you still have to learn how to fight through those thoughts . And you've overcome those , obviously , but to be in a place that's life-giving and hear the freedom to be able to sing a song that at one time you were told we can't sing this song , this song can't be in this worship set , because this doesn't line up to who we are .
RhettIt goes back to the self-talk . Before we were in these moments , there was this innocence , this curiosity , and I think it's that childlike faith that Christ talks about . Curiosity , and I think it's that childlike faith that Christ talks about is those that inherit the kingdom of God are those who have this childlike faith to go . God , I take you at your word and I just want to be with you and have fun and enjoy right In this curiosity , in this wonder . And I think it goes back to seeing the color in the world and not moving at a pace that's so fast that we can't enjoy the moments that are before us .
RhettAnd I think the encouragement that I want to bring people and even myself as we talk in these conversations is I don't know the self-talk you've had in the moments in life where somebody's come alongside you and said you can't do this . And who do you think you are ? You know , I just want you to know that those voices and that self-talk that is not from the Lord , the Lord's like no man I've gifted you in these areas and the reason you're even thinking about wanting to do these things is because I've put those desires in you . As long as they're scriptural , they glorify and honor God in what you're doing , but at the end of the day it's like you're going to battle no matter I wish it wasn't so no-transcript things and I want you to do these things .
RhettBut we've got to learn how to take captive every thought and align that to God's word to set us free in our mind to where we can walk in that freedom . And even as we're walking in that freedom , it's like a daily thing , man , it's like a constant hey . Every day I wake up I realize I'm going to have negative self-talk and I've got to overcome that . And I can't overcome it unless I know the truth . And the truth is found in God's word . And the more you know God's word , the more you know the truth that allows you to , in those moments of self-talk , to go nope , I know what God's word says and I'm going to take a step towards this . And you know , even if I fail , I'm going to learn something .
RhettI think that's huge when you're taking a next step towards anything , and I think even let's take this podcast , for instance . You know we came together and we realized , you know what , even if it's just for us and our families to come back and listen to , to be a tool that is a resource for our kids as they grow up to like fine , or if it's one or two , awesome . We're doing this because we want to be faithful with what God's put in our hand , to steward our story and if God uses that to to , you know , multiply across the country , which he's doing in the world , awesome , but if it's just for us , then great , and I think that's the perspective you got to bring it into is like what are you , what's your filter for doing this ? You know , is it to glorify self or to glorify God ? And ? And so what if you , if you get into it and you make a mistake , wow , great . Learn from that mistake and get better .
JustinThe thought of . Even what we talked about there
Developing Positive Self-Talk and Community
Justinis . I think the person was right . They were just constructing and framing it the wrong way . Everything that you just said it is . It's about that .
JustinWhat's your thinking like , what's your self-talk like ? There is a tendency . If you have that positive mindset , it's amazing what you can accomplish because , as you think , that's what you become , and if you're dwelling on the renewing of your mind and you're dwelling on Christ , there's no end to what you can accomplish according to His purpose and assignments he's giving you . So to give credit to what could have been told to me as a younger person is , when you venture down that negative mindset , you can belittle yourself and you can become a victim and almost you're poor in that way .
JustinOh man , I will go there with you all day long because I have been a poor minded type person where I put myself down , almost in a way of going against the creator who created me . Yeah , like I'm not giving myself enough credit of what the creator has called out in me for so long . I couldn't even go in that positive mindset because it seeped into that way of thinking of , because his mindset was more of . You got to name it , you got to claim it , you got to do this , yeah , anything that ventured near being positive . I felt like I was going into that camp , and so now I had the wrong mindset and so for years I was robbed of the goodness that comes with what the extremist ? What really actually comes from that ?
JustinThat's not so extreme , just like the extremists who think we need to be dragging our knees on the ground and I'm a poor and weary and weak man and I ain't going to make it too long , but , by the grace of God , like you can take it so far . The other way too , that God's like , hey , I'm right here , yeah , hey , let's come accomplish some stuff together , exactly , and it's just that balance . It's just that balance . I see it now . But it's taken great men and women in my life that have mentored me and coached me and pastored me , which is why 25 years later , I can hear my pastor say a simple song like that , and everybody in that room might be thinking something . But I'm over here getting emotional because it was God saying I got you .
RhettYeah , I love what you were saying about the life-giving relationships and the pastors of people who are speaking into you , because , as you were talking , I kind of wrote down a note . The key to experiencing the growth and the process of being free in your self-talk is putting yourself in a position or planting yourself in a soil that is life-giving . And so the best soil that God speaks to us in is scriptural , it's His Word , but it's life-giving community through the local church . And so for us , when I think through the aspect of okay , how do I put myself in a position to where I can actually not only have God's Word in my life and begin to apply that , but how do I put myself in a position to where I have relationships that are also affirming what God's word says about me ? And well , that's the key right .
RhettOftentimes you know you've got to place yourself in a position , and the best place to be positioned in and planted in is God's local church , because the beauty of it scripture says that your life will flourish and it doesn't happen overnight , but it's a process . It's iron sharpens iron . We don't know what we don't know , but when we put ourself in a position to be able to learn and to grow and to be teachable and to be trainable . All of a sudden , now we're not trying to just overcome our self-talk on our own , by ourself , we actually have people who are helping us in that . So I could open up to a friend like Justin and go man , I really have a desire to do ABC with my life and you can come along and affirm me in that and go hey , you know what ? I see that you can do that , because of course we can do all things through Christ , who strengthen us right .
RhettOf course we know that verse . But it's also you're somebody who can say I see that gift in your life , I see that you could accomplish this . I might take some time and it might take some hard work , but I mean , I affirm this in you and not only is it honors God , but I could see how it's going to be a blessing to you and your family and your kids and I want to support you in it . I think life-giving relationships , people that yeah , don't get it wrong Like there's the American Idol . People that come up and they try to audition and all their friends and family said , oh man , you're the greatest singer ever . And then they get up and then they sing and they're horrible . Like you don't need false people lying to you , you're not connected with the right people .
RhettThose are not the right people .
RhettSo I'm not talking about just putting yourself in just an affirming atmosphere where everybody agrees , but even where somebody goes , hey , man , that's a great idea .
RhettI'm not saying that you can't do that , but I'm not really necessarily seeing that as a strong suit in your life . But God can do anything . But I think your natural grace gifts set over here more , whether it be musically or speaking or teaching or counseling or whatever it might be . And then to have people that speak the truth in love , like it's truth and grace , yeah , like somebody who's willing to speak the truth in a way that can sting but also offer the grace along the way , that says hey , but like we love you and we've got a relational equity built into this to where you can feel okay , yeah , that truth didn't feel great , but I know they love me and they're trying to help guide me down the path to flourish in my life , and so all that to say you can't overcome self-talk on your own , by yourself . You need people in your life , you need life-giving relationships and you got to find a life-giving church , one to where you feel encouraged , inspired and challenged , with truth and grace combined .
JustinAnd sometimes it really is , it's wounds from a friend . Yeah , some of my greatest moments have been when my great friends have said something I haven't agreed with . And what you look for is you got to give it time , but look for the peace that will accompany that . And you know , I'm reminded when Jesus was in , you know , 40 days of fasting and you know , in the wilderness , satan came and visited him and began to give him three temptations and a lot of you guys listening to this maybe you already know that . But once he said no , once he rebuked it using the words of God , the scripture , the Old Testament . At that time , that had already been prophesied Satan would flee , but he was waiting for an opportune time . And so if he'll do that with Jesus , god in flesh , 100% truth , 100% grace , the Savior of the world , if he would do that to Him , we better believe he's going to do the same to us . So everything that we've talked about today is continually having a renewing of your mind . Just because you overcome it today , just because you right this ship of any wrong , that's been done . Congratulations if you do that . By the way , what we like to say is keep going and continually , daily , have the renewing of your mind , because the enemy will never stop as long as you have a pulse . He's going to look for that moment to get to you , and so I'm reminded of the verse in Romans 12 to do not conform to the pattern of this world , but be transformed by the renewing of your mind . Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is his good , pleasing and perfect will .
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