Sneezing, Allergies, and Strange Reactions

Rhett 0:00

So Linda's like in an effort , because she's a great leader , she's like let's rally the troops . Five , six , seven , eight , happy birthday . We all start singing too , and I start laughing . What blows me away is you counted five , six , seven , eight . And then we start singing one , two , three , Like it should have been like five , six , seven .

Justin 0:22

Happy birthday to you , Five , six six , seven Happy birthday to you Five , six , seven , eight .

Rhett 0:27

This birthday's been brought to you by Zatarain . They got like their hat on .

Justin 0:33

They got like their striped outfit . You got .

Justin 0:35

Harry Connick Jr . One more game .

Justin 0:38

Happy birthday . Happy birthday . Happy birthday to you and the chair . Happy birthday , happy birthday to you and they run out of the kitchen .

Rhett 0:48

Yeah , how are we doing , friends ? It's great to have you back for another conversation with Rhett and Justin right here at Armchair . Authentic a podcast where we're stewarding our stories and our relationships in a way that serve you , and today , Justin and I , we had a ton of fun . Our conversation goes left , it goes right , it goes up , it goes down , it goes a little bit all around . But I tell you what there's one thing that's for sure we had a lot of fun and a lot of laughter , and we cannot wait to share this episode with you .

Rhett 1:34

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Rhett 2:17

You can find us there at Armchair Authentic . That's at Armchair Authentic . Or we're over on X . You can find us there at Armchair Off Pod . That's Armchair Off A-U-T-H-P-O-D . All right , friends , the moment we've all been waiting for , let's jump into the conversation . You guys ready , here we go . Okay , justin , so it is starting to turn spring here in the South , even though it's technically what March .

Rhett 2:47

You know I'm used to living after spending five years up in the Northwest . It stays winter until about early June . Yeah , it feels like it , and so I'm mentioning that because today , as I was in , I'm in a position right now and I'm going to spare the details because it's just not a story I want to share just yet but we're in a situation where I'm getting to take my son back to school . Like in the mornings , I'm waking up early , and so I have the opportunity and the honor to , you know , feel like I'm back in elementary school taking my grown teenager to school .

Justin 3:17

Yes , that's my everyday .

Rhett 3:19

And just so to fill in the blank , nothing bad has happened , it's just literally . All I'm going to say is I'm down to down , back down to two cars .

Rhett 3:27

I won't tell you how I got there . That'll be a story for another day , that's right , but anyway . So two car scenario again , and here we are taking our you know me taking my son to school , and I noticed that I sneeze . I was sneezing . I probably sneezed , bro , like I don't know 10 , 15 times in a small little 10-minute ride . And I recognize that I am . I don't know , I don't even know how to say it , but when I sneeze I just like the whole world , like I could crack a window . I sneeze so loud that my son was like God , dad , kiss , so loud . Are you kidding me ? He's over there singing me , getting Ready to Sneeze . He let it go , man , and he is cringing , putting his hands in his ears , and I don't know . It had me thinking . First of all and this is so funny after about six sneezes , my son's looking at me and all of a sudden he turned from a 17 year old to dr max . Dad , when you get home , you need to take some allergy medicine and spray whatever you have to spray in your nose because ,

Rhett 4:34

this , this you're obviously allergic to something , yeah . And so I say all that to say , like my wife will mention to me that , could you sneeze any like less loud ? But if you think about my personality and if you've been listening to this podcast for a while , you recognize that I don't do any like I go all in with everything . I do it fits . I have literally pulled my I don't want to say pulled my back out , but I have popped vertebrae in my back when I've sneezed before .

Rhett 5:01

So if you're listening to this as a friend today , uh , are you a sneeze ? Are you like the loud ? I don't even know if there's a definition for this , but when it comes to sneezing , it's allergy season . Like , are you a loud sneezer ? Are you like you know ? Are you like you know , like it's like . It's like my spirit , my soul , all that is within me , from the depths of me , comes out like , and it's so loud and I literally , if I'm in a , if I'm in a , if I'm in a public place , like I literally am pulling my shirt up over my mouth and like over my nose , I'm like , oh dear God , hold it together . And I just , I don't know what it is , I can't control it , I've tried it's not like I'm doing it on purpose .

Justin 5:36

I usually put my mouth and my nose in my elbow you know the crease of your arm to try to silence it the best I can , but not hold back . Yeah , there's nothing better .

Rhett 5:46

I haven't heard you sneeze in a long time . I would say I'm a pretty loud sneezer and it might come from the fact that we were trained opera singers , not that we did that in a season or something like that , being able to use your diaphragm in a way to project .

Rhett 6:00

Maybe that's it , I don't know . But if you're a friend today and you're listening comment , are you a loud sneezer , a no sneezer ? Let me just tell you this I've heard people sneeze before and I don't like pointing people out , but I've heard people like that little , you know . I'm like they're going to blow up If they're a friend . I'm like how in the world did your eyes just not pop out ?

Justin 6:19

of your socket .

Rhett 6:26

That's it , because that's what I'm waiting for .

Justin 6:27

I mean , is it ? What relief did you just give yourself ? I ?

Rhett 6:29

know none . It feels good when I just scream and and most of it is , you know , it's more of of the ladies that are out there . You know , you've got your little cute little sneezes and stuff . But I'm like it's okay , let it out like my gosh , let the lioness out like just let it go .

Justin 6:42

Sneezes are funny , though , if you think about it . We're so conditioned that people just know you sneeze .

Justin 6:47

I'll be in my office , yeah , and I'll just let some sneezes go , and it will occur to me how loud it was in my office through the wall you know that we we do that and we automatically give each other credit that that was a sneeze , yeah , but if I just broke out and screamed as loud as I sneezed , people would think what's wrong with him . It's funny how we just naturally sneeze and it's okay just to let out a loud scream randomly .

Rhett 7:12

If you think about it and it doesn't matter where you are , you'll hear the random hey bless you . Like , where did that come from ? Was that like God bless you . You're an idiot . Or is that like may the Lord bless you and keep you and cause his face to shine upon you , blessing , or is it the myth ? Isn't it the myth , that your heart stops .

Justin 7:30

You can risk your heart stopping , and so to bless you was more of a way of blessing that you're alive .

Rhett 7:37

And I don't know if we want to look that up right now as we're doing this , but where did the bless you ? I don't know . If you think about hiccups , nobody says bless you . Cough , nobody the bless you like what . I don't know . If you think about hiccups , nobody says bless you . Right , you know cough . Nobody says you know bless you . Yeah , but why is it that we've decided that when it comes to somebody sneezing , oh , bless you yeah , and you're like , I feel like it has to do with your death experience .

Justin 8:00

Thank you it's traumatic .

Rhett 8:02

why all of a sudden does this stranger care about me when I sneeze Like thank God you didn't die on that one , yeah .

Justin 8:09

Bless you . Well , it gets a little awkward after they

Words, Pronunciation, and Regional Differences

Justin 8:12

give you two bless you's , but then you have a sneezing fit of three and they're like bless you . Oh , yeah , and then it's a fourth and it's like you're not going to bless that one , or are you getting tired of it ?

Rhett 8:26

Well , if you think about , like you know .

Justin 8:27

I don't know , maybe it's me , my normally come in twos .

Rhett 8:28

Yeah , usually me too . I was under some kind of like , I don't know . Something flew up my nose or my nostrils on the way from like my house to the truck .

Rhett 8:33

Weather in alabama , and like pot , like trees are starting to to bloom here . You know , the dogwood trees are turning white and I'm like man , this is beautiful . I've loved that we're having spring as early as we are . It's nice . But like I don't all that to say , like I normally have a sneeze and I know there's another one coming and I'll . I know this about you , but I open this up to our friends in the audience . What is it about ? When you know you're trying to sneeze is like , why ? Is like , look into the light , like whatever you got to do , you got to . I notice people and I do this . I'm like , oh , where's the light ? I need to look outside and look at the sun . What is it about that ? That actually ?

Justin 9:07

engages a sneeze I believe it might be some sensors inside that light creates the same reaction . When you look up , it allows whatever it is that lets a sneeze go . I forgot . I forgot what it is . I feel like it has to do with sensory something okay maybe I don't know , Maybe I've looked this up , Maybe I'm making it up , but I know that I have to find a light If I want a sneeze to come out . I'm like at night I'll be in the car . I'll turn my bright light on .

Rhett 9:33

I know you turn your little headlamp on , I'm looking at the road , but I'm trying to stare .

Justin 9:45

You've got to make of got your your lip poking up a little . It's like it creates the right , the right inlet for the nostril to hit the right place , where the sense is just yeah , and here it goes , yeah and , and what I don't know , man , I mean you can even you can even hear it in my nose right now I'm , I'm a little stopped up

Rhett 9:56

I'm a little stopped up . That's what I'm talking about it . So I took , uh , some . You know I took dr max's orders . You know , here's a cookie . Take two of these , you'll be better in the morning . But I came home and I sprayed the spray , which is like , I think , afrin , because my nose was stopping up and , by the way , I had no idea like I took that stuff one time for like a month , like every day , yeah , and I was like man , this stuff is great , I can breathe every day . And then my wife's like how long you been taking that ? I'm like I don't know much . She's like , uh , you're only supposed to take that for like two or three days . I was like really , and she was like , yeah , that's not good , you can actually ruin your whatever . And I was like I didn't know that . And then I and then , and then I quit and I was like this is kind of hard to quit . I didn't realize this was like a drug , yeah I was addicted to it , didn't even know I was addicted to it .

Justin 10:40

Didn't even know I was addicted to it .

Justin 10:42

Well , it's kind of like eye drops . Eye drops are the same way . I used to use eye drops and it would make red eyes turn just that pristine white and I thought , god , that looks good . Yeah , because I can get red eyes . Well , you wear a lot of contacts , I do , yeah , and ironically , I'm wearing glasses today .

Rhett 11:00

I know , I've seen you , I know , are you giving ?

Justin 11:02

your eyes a break ? No , I just decided to wear my glasses again a little bit .

Rhett 11:06

Well , it looks good . It's matchy-matchy black on black . It is .

Justin 11:10

My old dark rimmed glasses . You just got to change it up , don't you ? You got a new haircut . A new haircut . You got the glasses .

Rhett 11:20

It's all new dang . They're like , man , what's going on with you ? I don't know . That's that creative vibe you just got to like . Once you think you got me figured out , I'm just going to throw you a little curveball .

Justin 11:27

That's about it . But the eye drops , I mean my eyes would be so white but I just kept doing it every day Like I want that result . Yeah , why not ? You're not really supposed to do type drops , okay ? I did not just . Not just drops , I mean the ones that are . They're made to make the veins go in . It's like contract or whatever . Yeah , I think it's contract okay so that it it keeps your eyes just white . Okay , but it's not actually great for you . It's meant for those . You know , a one-off kind of deal and I would just do it every day because I became addicted to , like , looking in the mirror and why'm tired ?

Rhett 12:05

Why not ? You feel like you've got Niagara Falls in your eyes now , like you feel refreshed .

Justin 12:10

But then I find out it's actually not good for you . So then I had to kind of realize , all right , what's causing .

Rhett 12:16

you know , of course , the one in the morning nights back then Is there anything more refreshing or more satisfying than a sneeze Love it and eyes that feel like , oh , they're just people . Hate the word moist . I know I don't know what the word is . What is the word ?

Justin 12:33

Eyes that are moist . One of our listeners right now . That's for you , Josh . Josh , he hates that word . Josh Daniels hates that word .

Rhett 12:38

Oh , Josh , if you're listening . Man , I'm sorry and I've had . I started a pastor one time . He's like whatever you do , please don't use that word again .

Justin 12:45

I'm like what is the deal ? I don't know . I love it .

Rhett 12:48

It's like moist cake .

Justin 12:49

Like it's .

Rhett 12:50

You want it to be moist .

Justin 12:52

What is ?

Rhett 12:52

wrong with that ? Nothing . What has turned that word into a word like uh , you know , and and if I've said that word and it's hurt you . Please know I love you and I'm just trying to help you get better today . Yeah , and you're not sorry , no , and I'm not because I like , I want to eat moist cake . Yes , why not ? And I want my eyes to be moist and not dry . That's right , and if there's another way to say it , please let me know .

Justin 13:15

We'll try to use that word . Yeah , moist will suffice .

Rhett 13:20

You know , I think I just hit my quota on using that word today . Now it's starting to be like broom .

Justin 13:24

It's broom .

Rhett 13:25

If you say broom , think about this guys , I want to encourage every single one of you . Pick a random word right now for us . We're going to say broom , let's say broom and just say it a couple times . Broom , like broom , broom , that is broom . Okay , now think about why in the world do we choose B-R-O-O-M for this device that actually sweeps things ? Broom , broom , right , think about it for a second . Okay , so that's a weird . It's a weird word . Words lost on me , dude . When we were probably 12 years old , we had these conversations .

Justin 13:53

Oh yeah , and I still remember where we were walking . Yes , On our way , oh yeah yeah , yeah , the house right there that was never , ever constructed . No , Walking towards Parkway .

Rhett 14:04

I thought it was behind the car dealership of Parkway East , behind the Skate Haven area . We were walking that road and there was the abandoned house .

Justin 14:11

Okay , that's what I remember . I remember walking from the Joe guy's house .

Rhett 14:16

Joe , I don't remember Joe . It was that house that was never fixed when you would walk past our apartment that was on the left on our way to Parkway .

Justin 14:24

I remember walking there and we'd walk in the yard instead of by the road . We'd walk in the yard actually of the houses we were passing .

Rhett 14:33

Yeah , I got it and I just remember us saying Broom broom , broom .

Justin 14:38

And we were laughing because it really didn't make sense anymore .

Rhett 14:41

It's the dumbest word it was like what is ? Broom . If you think about it like , who chose the word ? Like I'm always in , these are deep thoughts with Rhett Barton on Armchair Authentic Podcast , I think about fork . Where did that come from ? Because like a fork in the road usually means you come and you got to make a decision go left or right . Why in the world does the word fork also mean that it's a utensil I use to eat something ?

Justin 15:04

Yeah .

Rhett 15:05

Spoon Okay , Spoon , Like I don't get it . Spoon Broom , I mean any word . If you think about it for too long and say it , it just becomes a really weird word . It does .

Justin 15:16

So anyway , and maybe that's what moist was beginning to happen with us .

Rhett 15:20

So I don't think there's anything more frustrating as well than knowing you need to sneeze and then not being able to . Isn't that a downer ?

Justin 15:29

Well , and it's a cruel joke , when my wife Summer used to have this thing before she saw me sneezing where she got this from , but she would say purple cow Okay .

Rhett 15:42

Oh , she was trying to get your mind off something .

Justin 15:47

It literally made me stop and I was like why did you do that and how did that work ? And that became a thing with us where anytime she'd see me about to sneeze , she'd say purple cow , and it always interesting to the point . I was like this is funny , but you can't do that like I'm about to sneeze . I want to sneeze woman .

Rhett 16:03

Let me sneeze . I need the whatever you want to call it . I just need the affirmation , the feeling that , ah , I got it out .

Justin 16:10

It feels great , and so I'll randomly say that to people now and it doesn't work on them and they're looking at me like where did Purple Cow come from ? Never mind , it's like a barrel full of monkeys , whatever full of monkeys .

Rhett 16:20

whatever , it's just something stupid that tries to get your mind off , like what .

Justin 16:23

Yeah .

Rhett 16:24

And that's smart .

Justin 16:25

Look at her . When did she do that ? When we're dating ?

Rhett 16:27

Oh yeah , was this when she knew she wanted to be in a doctor and psychology and psychiatry .

Justin 16:31

She didn't have that , yet she knew she wanted to be a counselor . She was a photographer , then Okay , beginning her counseling .

Rhett 16:39

So , thinking about words , this is something that I just happened to be .

Justin 16:43

This is deep thoughts , again with Rhett , by the way , a barrel full of monkeys . That was like a , wasn't that like a toy ?

Rhett 16:50

A barrel that had a bunch of monkeys with a tail and you could connect them .

Justin 16:54

Weren't they on Toy Story maybe ?

Rhett 16:55

They were like flat plastic monkeys in a barrel , yeah , and they called it , and I don't know if it was a game or what Was it a monkey barrel , or a barrel full of monkeys , I don't know .

Rhett 17:03

Somebody comment ? Let us know . Send us this , okay , before you know . I don't know where our conversation on the deep thought and leadership is coming out today , but I just wrote down a few things . When it comes to pronouncing words , like I know , there's a difference between the area of country that you live in and how you pronounce things . So , when it comes to the word T-E-N okay , I didn't say it how would you pronounce the word T-E-N ? Ten , ten , 10? , 10 . Or tin , tin , like a tin can Sure . Or 10 ? 10 . Because I will never forget the moment somebody's like Red . It's not tin , it's 10 .

Rhett 17:43

I'm like 10 ? Like hen Right 10 . Because I don't say hen , I say hen Hen . Man go get that hen .

Justin 17:51

Not that , not that .

Rhett 17:52

Listen , man . I grew up in an apartment complex in the city . There were no hens or chickens running around , but it was hen Seven , eight , nine , ten .

Justin 18:00

Yeah , seven , eight , nine , ten . Pen so like hey , will you ?

Rhett 18:03

hand me that pen , or hey , hand me that pen . Well , there was a movie . It's such a small variable .

Justin 18:07

There was a movie in the late 90s maybe called , and it was called like your skull . The movie was called Skulls Wait , hold on Skull , or skull like the stuff you chew in tobacco Like a skull , like your S-K-U-L-L , Like your head , your skeleton , your skull , Okay , skull , yeah . And evidently I say that and it doesn't sound like it , Because Summer would say what are you saying ? And I would go skulls . She's like no , it's skull .

Rhett 18:37

And I'm like skulls U-L-L-L .

Justin 18:38

She says no and I'll go skull . And he's like no , it's skull , and I'm like skull .

Rhett 18:48

So you're , Phoebe , trying to teach Joey how to speak French on Friends and it's like it's not happening To this day .

Justin 18:58

I mean , I say skulls , and evidently it's not the right word , but I just go with it . I'm tired of figuring it out .

Rhett 19:00

When you said that , all I could go like listening . You're thinking of the tobacco . I was thinking of the tobacco in the can . The kid's like skull , right , but you're saying it that way Skull , skull . Skull , See to me say seagull , Seagull , seagull . So you say that right , yeah , skull , all right , okay , the big one is oil or oil . Oil , yeah , oil , for sure I say oil . I don't know , man , sometimes I like the best people Oil I go get an oil change .

Justin 19:32

I do say oil , I would make most of our world proud .

Rhett 19:34

It's just so funny , man .

Justin 19:36

I know I've said this before , but chunk or chuck I know because of you , because of your time in Idaho , that it's chuck .

Rhett 19:45

Well , but you ready for this ? Like everywhere I go , like , hey , man , chunk it too . And I had a conversation with a small group the other day here in the South it's chunk , they're like chuck . What are you talking about ? Chuck , chunk , they're like Chunk . What are you talking about ? Chunk , chunk's a man . You Chunk something , chunk it , man , Just Chunk it .

Justin 19:59

C-H-U-N-K . Like the kid on Goonies Chunk .

Rhett 20:03

Hey dude , did you hear that they're making the Goonies remake ? I did I mean that's all .

Justin 20:07

I know I haven't looked at it . Well , guy who's like that guy , yeah , yeah , supposedly he's wondering if he'll get cast . I don't know if that's true or not , because he's he leans to the right conservative , oh and whatever circle of hollywood does not like the liberal left , the liberal left might not like it says no , how , I don't know , that's a whole nother .

Rhett 20:36

But as inclusive as they want to be , how opposite is that it's ?

Justin 20:41

very true , it's very exclusive , it really is .

Rhett 20:43

Yeah , because if you're touting , hey , we're so inclusive , we want everybody to be a part , but not you Because of your belief . I'm like how is that inclusive .

Justin 20:53

If you're a bystander trying to look at it , I guess in a bipartisan way , looking at both , you can't deny looking at one thinking pretty exclusive , pretty intolerant .

Rhett 21:05

I mean it's like any other religion , but you start saying Jesus and he's Lord and Savior . We don't want that and we know because there's power in that . We're living in this world , it's all spiritual , but you can't say you're an inclusive group and then exclude somebody else and make it very clear that you're excluding them , but in that mindset it's like they think that's normal . It's like no , you've lost common sense .

Justin 21:28

It's crazy and I'm not picking on anybody that votes

Childhood Games and the Evolution of Play

Justin 21:32

one way or the other .

Justin 21:33

I'm just saying I want the guy to be in the movie is what I'm saying . I don't care who he votes for .

Rhett 21:37

Think about it . He's a good actor .

Justin 21:38

I don't care if it's right wing , left wing , I want that actor , the Fertelli's in there to sing me an opera song .

Rhett 21:43

Is he a good actor ? Then , by God , put him in the movie and bring back some great nostalgia man .

Justin 21:49

Oh , that would be so good . Yeah , Chunk I want , Because the chunk is an adult dude . The truffle shuffle , but have you seen this dude ?

Rhett 21:58

I don't know his name . He's probably now built . He is built Dude . This guy is like built and you would never recognize him .

Justin 22:04

I don't know his name . Do you know who Brandon the brother is ? Oh yeah , that was the older brother , right ? Yeah , oh , he was Thanos .

Rhett 22:10

Thanos , I did not know that until like probably three or four years into watching marvel . Yeah , you try to flatten that dude's tires . Yeah , I've done it , but then you go back .

Justin 22:25

You're like little brant or whatever they go I don't know but uh , he run that little riding that little girl's bike down the hill .

Rhett 22:27

Yeah , the brother , yeah yeah , yeah , I'll have to say man what . My son hasn't seen that movie . And there's part of me that's like . I wanted to watch the movie and I think we're old enough now to be able to watch it and appreciate it , but not be , like , really impacted by some of the stuff .

Justin 22:39

And there's not really anything bad in there , but it was just this whole idea when me and dax flew to idaho years ago .

Justin 22:45

What , what oh yeah , what was that ? 2019 , yeah , or 20 there , I let him watch he watched goonies on the plane .

Justin 22:52

Oh , that's cool , I just remember .

Rhett 22:55

Yeah , yeah , yeah on the way to . I don't know . I mean , there's nothing Wrong with it , I just you know . Okay , so with the Goonies , you know , for those who love Goonies , I think it's one of those Things . Did you know that when they play the TV , goonies , the TV , they act , go with me .

Justin 23:11

That's the Goonie Theme song . Okay , I was trying .

Justin 23:14

To give you some Background music for Goonies , thank you .

Justin 23:17

Since we don't have a play button to bring any background we do , we just got to utilize it .

Rhett 23:20

Well , I guess we could go in there and put it in , but we didn't know we were talking .

Justin 23:23

We need to just add some of this stuff to our normal repertoire and have some music to play .

Rhett 23:27

Yeah , okay , we'll do that . That way we can have silence and the music will still be playing Sounds . Even know what I was saying ?

Justin 23:34

well , because you didn't go with the , you didn't let the rhythm get you no , okay , I remember what I was saying .

Rhett 23:44

So , on the tv . The first time I saw goonies on the tv version and this is probably 10 , 12 years ago I'm watching it , I'm like , oh , I love this on tv version and I'm saying , wait a minute , what in the world am I what ? This was not in movie and it was the part where they're , I guess you know they went down the water slide rock thing and they fall in the water . They're there and the you know they do the pirate ship thing and then when they're escaping the pirate ship , they're in the water trying to find . You know , get out of the water and out of the whatever .

Justin 24:19

I guess they made it look exactly it was .

Rhett 24:22

It wasn't only it was originally in the movie but they had cut it , so back then they didn't have like dvd and they show you that through extra bonuses the vhs tape didn't have . No , no , no , it didn't , and so in but when it was on tv . It's like we want to show these random scenes that weren't in it , and I was watching this like this is the dumbest thing I've ever seen . The movie was great until the octopus looking thing .

Rhett 24:47

But if you , then you fast forward another 10 minutes or whatever they're . At the end the police come . It's like , hey , they saved the day . They're you know . They're all talking like , oh , and then this happened , and this happened , and this happened and this happened , and they rip up the papers and all that . And then I think it was the Asian kid saying oh , and there was this octopus that came out and I'm like so when you watch the original movie without that scene .

Rhett 25:08

You think he's just making stuff up oh wow , but because they filmed it that way , he's actually speaking about what actually happened , but it almost gave the context of oh , they're just making like rant about what kids do ? They over exaggerate .

Justin 25:21

And you're thinking , you don't have to exaggerate .

Rhett 25:24

That was an epic story .

Justin 25:24

I know it already sounded exaggerated and we know that it happened because we're with you . But you lost me on the octopus because that didn't happen . It didn't happen Just talk about one-eyed Willie , but there was a note . Just talk about One-Eyed Willie . But there was a note . Yeah , don't touch the gold . You greedy punk , you greedy dirtbag .

Rhett 25:42

You , greedy dirtbag . We were just talking about the Lorax the other day . We were oh man , it's such a good one .

Justin 25:48

Let it die , let it die .

Rhett 25:51

Who's with ?

Justin 25:52

me now , you greedy dirtbag , that's a good one too .

Rhett 25:55

Oh man , Dirtbag , that's a good one too . Oh man , If you haven't seen the Lorax , you obviously don't have kids .

Justin 26:01

I do hope that , Goonies , the remake comes out and I hope that they include . Well , I guess the mom for Telly is dead . She died a long time ago .

Rhett 26:12

I think she was literally like a sweet person in real life , but she played like a really good bad . She was really good , like a sweet person in real life , but she made she played like a really good .

Justin 26:19

She was really good . But the two , the two brothers like I think one of the brothers was the one who was like on all these , um , like the , the fugitive movies , like that with um .

Rhett 26:28

What was the guy's name ? Not harrison ford , but the that's what I was gonna say not the detective guy .

Justin 26:33

Uh , I don't know , oh my gosh I just remember harrison tommy lee , tommy lee , jones , yeah he was like the assistant to Tommy Lee Jones and that was one of the brothers of the Vitellis .

Justin 26:42

Yeah , what a good movie .

Rhett 26:45

You know , like I've learned , this is what I like about like movies and stuff when I find out something's coming . You know , I'm like up , don't want to know . I don't want to see a trailer , I just want to go on it blind . I don't want to hear reviews , I just want to be able to show up at the movie theater and watch it and let it be a complete surprise .

Rhett 27:05

It's hard to do it's really hard to do , but if I find if a trailer comes on and I'm watching television , often times I'm like if I know I want to see it , I don't watch it . That is amazing , I never knew that . Yeah , now it's sometimes .

Justin 27:20

Sometimes it's like 10 times .

Rhett 27:22

Sometimes it's one of those to where I'm like , okay , I really want to like you know , star wars stuff . I'm like , okay , I gotta see this , because they typically star wars , star wars . They don't give away the plot or the scene , they're just showing you like some really cool stuff , like , okay , I can't wait to see this . But I guess maybe for me the goonies would be more like okay , I've got it in my head as a memory and I just kind of want to see how they I don't want to prejudge it based off the , the trailer .

Justin 27:46

I don't know . It's funny how um uh trailers used to be versus now . Back then you'd always have the narrator and they'd basically script the whole thing . They really would . It started out on a cold morning . A new kid moves into a town . He's not really aware of his surroundings . And then it finally starts and it's like , oh , and he wakes up , the Terminator comes into town and kills everybody .

Rhett 28:14

I'm going to kill you , and it's like they say when he does that and you see the good , you see the bad guy die right there for whatever you know , and they're like well , I don't have to watch the movie .

Justin 28:22

It shows like rocky at the end , yelling out adrian , it's like well I guess he went .

Rhett 28:26

He's got the united states flag around him . Everybody's cheered and lift him on up and it's like okay , well , there's that .

Justin 28:32

We know the ending . It just walks you through the whole thing , yeah oh no , it's true .

Rhett 28:38

You know , and I guess , maybe from that scarring and traumatic experience as a kid , I don't want to watch trailers because I don't want the movie to be ruined especially if I'm spending 15 dollars because we wanted to be the first to call the character that we were .

Justin 28:51

Well , yeah , so I guess that you just don't do that .

Rhett 28:53

I'm curious if there were any other group of kids growing up in the mid 80s , early 90s and when movies came out , like you just called the characters . That's that to me it's like . Was that just something that we did or was that something I don't know ? So a movie comes out .

Justin 29:06

Let's say young guns . We went to go see young guns when we were kids in the theater . Don't know how we got to go see that , but we did . That's another story . That's another story . But I remember the preview came on . You were the first to see it . You called yeah , actually billy , the kid bo saw it first and he called charlie sheen , because charlie sheen was the he was a very popular actor that didn't last long in that movie maybe it's because they had to overpay them .

Justin 29:29

They only get so much time so we get this little cameo .

Justin 29:32

And then you're I finally get my character called . Y'all saw the commercial before me and I call kieber . Yeah , and we're watching the movie and it was funny when , like the first half of the movie , they kill off Charlie Sheen .

Rhett 29:46

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Justin 30:04

Now let's get back to that conversation . The first half of the movie . They kill off Charlie Sheen and we look at each other me and you we're like trying not to laugh too hard and Bo cannot believe it . His character's dead . And then he just says I'll be Lou Diamond Phillips .

Rhett 30:20

Do you think it was because we just lived vicariously through movies , because we that was our escape to get us out of whatever our reality was and we thought if we could call the main character then we were actually like because you didn't really know who the main character was .

Justin 30:33

It was a trailer , it was a guess .

Rhett 30:34

Yeah , it's kind of like winning the lottery , you know yeah , you just didn't know .

Justin 30:37

You didn't know what . You were always glad to know . You picked a cool character .

Rhett 30:40

Yeah , it's kind of like a box of chocolates .

Justin 30:43

You pick , you never know what you're going to get . You picked Billy the Kid and the movie was about Billy the Kid , so it was pretty safe that you had a good character .

Rhett 30:50

And maybe if we didn't really realize that the history lesson in this was going to take place in that time frame , maybe from an adult perspective we would have seen oh , this is going to be about Billy the Kid .

Justin 31:00

Oh , this is going to be about Billy the Kid . Okay , yeah , you might not have known , I don't know . I just figure you knew and claimed the main character .

Rhett 31:06

But Goonies , it's impressive to me to meet somebody like Mark Clement , who you talk about . Goonies , like I didn't see it , oh he didn't . No , he's like

The Awkward Birthday Song Moment

Rhett 31:16

10 years older than us , so he missed that whole Goonies train . Yeah , we love that about you , mark . I love that you . I love that you are the elder in our friendship .

Justin 31:27

That's . Yeah , we like that .

Rhett 31:29

Yeah , okay . So , um , this past weekend um , I don't want to say this , yeah , it was this weekend . God , it's amazing how things can get blurred together . So I had a moment that happened . So we were celebrating Linda's mom's birthday , whom she is a February 29th birthday , so she's a what do they call that leap year ? Wow , yeah .

Justin 31:49

She's like what . She's like 17 , 17 years old 17 ?

Rhett 31:53

Yeah , yeah , so February 20th . For just for those who don't remember , the month of February is typically 28 days until leap year . Then there's the February 29th , so there is a select few of human beings on the planet who were actually born on a day . That's not always a day , yeah , and so we celebrated her birthday , but we also combined it with Linda's sister .

Justin 32:12

Terry , by the way , what do you do ? Do you do you claim either the 28th or the first ? Uh , I , usually it's your first .

Rhett 32:20

I mean , and I think that's up for the decision , unless it's leap year , you get to claim the actual day . And that's why I think she's literally just 17 years old , according to the actual day .

Justin 32:31

Every four years she gets to be her real birthday . That's got to be kind of fun to say . I would think that's cool .

Rhett 32:34

So something happened , and it happened around the happy birthday song . I don't know if anybody else thinks that this is an awkward moment , but if you think about it , that song is really an awkward moment for everybody involved . In many ways , if you're outgoing and you like a lot of attention , then God bless you . You're going to love the moment . But 90% of the people are like eh , it's introverted . Not everybody can sing . No , who starts the song ? In what key is the song going to be ?

Justin 33:06

We're breaking it down . Even if you look at that alone , it's like the national anthem . You've got to start that on a pretty low key . You've got yourself a high song . Yeah , and you've got to be extra careful right there .

Justin 33:18

You know it's like , oh boy , that's too high Happy birthday .

Justin 33:21

You usually need to think lower than higher .

Rhett 33:23

So I'm setting this scene up to know , all right , the moment is , the cake comes out and these are grown adults , right ?

Justin 33:30

It wasn't just cake , it was moist cake . It was moist cake . Thank you , terry .

Rhett 33:34

Terry made her own cake , which is great Wow .

Justin 33:36

Terry .

Rhett 33:40

So Terry's birthday is a couple weeks out .

Justin 33:41

but they made the decision . Let's celebrate it together . That's very sweet , Mother and daughter bonding .

Rhett 33:43

So Kate comes out . They light four candles two for her mother-in-law , two for Terry . I was like man , I don't think there's . Was there not enough room for all the candles ?

Justin 33:53

And I'm not going to throw them out . She didn't throw the candles , but anyway .

Rhett 33:56

They were like well , let's just keep it simple . And then here's the awkward moment , and I don't know , friends , is this an awkward moment for everybody else ? First of all , who starts the singing ? And that's a lot of pressure , because everybody's kind of looking around .

Justin 34:11

They usually look at the vocalists in the room and they all look to me .

Rhett 34:14

Yeah , and they did , but I just started going happy birthday and nobody joined in . Nobody sang , in fact . Let me rephrase that I got into happy and I'm starting to sing and I'm looking at the people around me , not at the person we're singing to , like come on , join with me , don't leave me alone .

Rhett 34:33

And I get into that happy birthday and then Jay Lee also a musician , phenomenal drummer starts trying to sing at that birthday part . And then look over , nobody else is joining in . I'm like okay , fail , but let me , let me speed this up . So this happened really quick . I was like happy bird and then jay you know jay lee's happy bird and then look to linda and she's like this ain't working , it's a glorified it's horrible .

Rhett 34:58

And then you know moraine we call him moraine . You know linda's mom . And then terrier looking , it's's just an awkward , it's awkward man . Happy birthday , guys . Right , I just it's almost like forget , forget the song . We love you . Blow out the freaking candles , All four of them .

Rhett 35:11

Yeah , let's just eat some cake . And so Linda and her genius and we laughed about this the other day and this is okay , I don't know if she gave me permission , but we're going to go for this , all right . So Linda's in an effort , because she's a great leader . She's like let's rally the troops . Five , six , seven , eight . And that's literally what she counted . Okay , now she's like five , six , seven , eight . Happy birthday .

Rhett 35:36

We all started in two and I start laughing and people are like why are you laughing ? And I'm like I can't explain it because I'm a musician and so we all get through the moment and blow out the candles and I'm like 5 , 6 , 7 , 8 . I said honestly , what blows me away is you counted 5 , 6 , 7 , 8 and then we start singing 1 , 2 , 3 . And we're all musicians here . So what should have happened was five , six said happy birthday , hey to you happy birthday .

Justin 36:11

Hey , to you happy birthday happy birthday happy birthday to you . Like it should have been like five , six . Happy birthday to you five , six , seven eight birthday I'm like .

Rhett 36:34

I'm like . This birthday's been brought to you by zataran . This is a zataran .

Justin 36:42

I'm like man all the louisiana people like let's go five , six , seven , birthday to you and I'm like , but they got like their hat on , they got like their striping outfit . You got harry conning jr .

Rhett 36:55

It's a harry conning jr happy birthday happy birthday come on now .

Justin 37:00

Happy birthday , happy birthday . Happy birthday , happy birthday , come on now . Happy birthday and they run out of the kitchen .

Rhett 37:14

Yeah , so that's what should have happened based off the count . But we white folks up in you know , middle and central Alabama , happy birthday At the end of the know , middle and central Alabama , happy birthday . But at the end of the day it's like communication , you might not get the words right , but as long as everybody's understanding . And so , in her defense , even though the rhythm was off , we all followed , we all sang , we all got through it . It worked like a charm . But the good news is we now have a new happy birthday song in the .

Rhett 37:39

Barden family moving forward . Y'all ready for it ?

Justin 37:49

Five new happy birthday song in the barden family .

Rhett 37:51

Moving forward , y'all ready for it ?

Justin 37:52

five , six , seven , eight happy birthday and we're gonna make it fun .

Rhett 37:53

I might even like record something , get a guy with the trumpet or like , fire this . Adorant all my louisiana friends that work with linda at highlands college . You got to give her a hard time just go , walk , walk up to her . Come on , dan , walk up to her and go five , six , seven eight .

Justin 38:06

It's like going to Monster Plantation at Six Flags .

Justin 38:09

All that music going .

Rhett 38:12

I'm sorry it's Monster Mansion now , but yes , politically corrected the name of Monster Plantation to Monster Mansion , please , okay , please .

Justin 38:24

Okay , my bad .

Justin 38:25

Okay , is it really ? It really is Okay ? Monster Check out Monster Mansion .

Justin 38:30

If that music is still on .

Rhett 38:31

Yeah , it is . Is the music allowed ? It's still there . They just changed the word .

Justin 38:37

Done . Is that the Monster Mansion ? Okay , wow , they really did . Okay , monster .

Rhett 38:41

Mansion . Okay , wow , they really did

Family Game Night: Creating Lasting Memories

Rhett 38:42

. Okay . So that brings up a whole other thing . If you've ever gone to Six Flags in Atlanta , there is a waterboat ride . It's basically kind of like Pirates of the Caribbean , but yet just themed around this monster plant I can't say it Monster Mansion and we're these monsters , and it's very Louisiana-type stuff . Yeah , totally . You get to a point where it's like , oh , it's fun , but then this little sheriff's like stay out on the marsh .

Justin 39:06

And of course no , what are you doing ? Don't go in the marsh and you like .

Rhett 39:11

just you're going like a mile and a half in this boat and you like ?

Justin 39:23

and you go up this little conveyor belt into the dark and it drops and then it's like there goes that music yeah , the lorraine now you're out of the music is leaving .

Rhett 39:26

now it's like crickets and creepy and some miniature haunted house for about the next minute , and then you come back out to the party five , six , seven , man , you got out the marsh . We're so glad you made it come back anytime , y'all yeah , I mean that was classic growing up , but we'd have a new birthday song , so I just want you to know that's phenomenal , so you know ?

Justin 39:45

hey , you want some inspiration . That's a good story .

Justin 39:49

Five six , seven . To you One more game .

Rhett 39:58

So in my mind we got Harry Connick Jr going on over the keyboard and jazz player . You know it's like .

Justin 40:05

Well , I thought I saw Santa in the night . Yeah , okay , that's a good one bro .

Rhett 40:12

So the joy , the joys man , I mean you got to find the laughter and joys in everyday life , because it happens all the time .

Justin 40:19

Well , no rhyme or reason makes it fun too , five , six , seven , eight at that speed should not have brought y'all all in slowly , but it was like clockwork and y'all were perfectly on rhythm and it made no sense . So I can imagine you .

Justin 40:31

I was like during the whole song , laughing like we are , so on and it there's no reason there's zero reason there's no reason we should be on right now zero and that's .

Rhett 40:41

That's the you know , so I don't know if the point of the story is that , despite miscommunication , we're all still together . That's a great leader , so kudos to my wife . I don't know if she was speaking vision into the future of where we want birthday songs to be , so it's a lot more fun .

Justin 40:55

See five , six , seven , eight , that thing .

Rhett 40:59

It was so good man . It was so good man , it was so good five , six , seven , eight . Yeah , I had to turn the the man I don't know . We're in that season of it's cold in the morning , kind of . Did you just do that with your phone ? Yeah , I just turned fancy . Well , I just turned this resident .

Justin 41:16

I gotta go press a button on my wall welcome to the 21st century . I see that man you know you've , you've got , I got the alarm that tells you well , it's not like justin just came in .

Rhett 41:28

I'm like doors open because I unlock it from my phone . Pretty nice , yeah , it sounds . You're making me sound like a lot fancier than I am I bought . When we bought the house it was just they call it a smart house .

Rhett 41:41

Um , our house is stupid without the internet , so hey man we had so much like at the time of this recording . We just had the , a major storm come through um alabama , and so last night our power went out and it was in the between of like the electricity wanting to stay on but then going off . Have you ever experienced this ? I feel like back in the day it went off and stayed off , but like now I don't know the technology if it's like flickers , it flickers and then it comes on and comes back on and and and , all of a sudden , after about five or six attempts of that , it's you know and it's black , and so it's so wonder , it's so amazing how disconnected from the world you become when the power goes out super quick . Oh , because now no internet .

Rhett 42:23

My phone battery is almost dead .

Justin 42:24

And I'm thinking and it's like what do we do ?

Rhett 42:27

And I was like I had to find one of my phone chargers , like I have these little portable phone chargers I take when I travel , and I was like Max , do you get that ? And I had enough to charge my phone a little bit more .

Justin 42:35

So I could continue to try for me and I instantly I'm plugging up phones , I'm plugging up my flashlights , that charge just in case , because it got pretty , pretty windy yeah , and you got a lot of trees around your property trees around my property .

Rhett 42:50

Here's what I noticed when the power went out and I think there's a lot of spiritual significance to this too , but , man and when it got , when all the power went out and it got quiet and it was dark and you could like literally hear the wind you like feel it's almost like I could hear the house moving . You can just hear creaking and moving , oh yeah , and you can almost feel the pressure of like you're I don't know so quiet . You could hear everything . When it was turned off . Yeah , it's just amazing to me the , the intricate little details that you would normally not hear when there's not the resonation of electricity or TV the little buzz .

Justin 43:25

Or the buzz we don't even know that exists in our house , or the white noise that's there .

Rhett 43:28

It's just silence . It was silence and it's almost like you're forced . You're forced , you're forced to just sit there with your thoughts . There's something about that quiet moment just to unplug .

Justin 43:41

And even just to do that in general , even power being on , we've been doing this thing . We probably have dinner together . As a family , we sit at the table at least five nights a week .

Rhett 43:52

That's awesome bro .

Justin 43:53

And then the other nights we'll serve them . They'll be playing their games they're gamers or YouTubers , so they're doing their thing and I'll come and deliver some taquitos or whatever , like a good meal that you don't have to be sitting at the table .

Rhett 44:04

So you said that pretty quick . I want to clarify Taquitos Taquitos , not taquilas .

Justin 44:10

Yeah , yeah , okay yeah , don't give my kid taquitos , we're talking little tacos , basic yeah .

Rhett 44:19

So good , by the way . They're very good , do you ? Get those from Publix Sam's .

Justin 44:23

Walmart , Costco . Yeah , we buy in bulk everything at Costco , and so I'll deliver it to the boys while they're playing . It's like I'll literally just kind of simply just knock sneak in .

Rhett 44:33

You're making it so hard for those kids to ever want to leave your house .

Justin 44:36

You know that right .

Rhett 44:36

Oh , totally , I do the same thing .

Justin 44:44

Here you . You want a fresh baked cookie , aren't you blessed you ever want to leave this house ? Good job killing that guy , then , wow , headshot Good .

Justin 44:51

We did the same thing as kids .

Justin 44:53

Man , you killed a man . I'm trying to be a little more correct . I will yell down . I'll hear my younger saying like oh , I killed him . I'm like eliminated him . You're politically correcting the definition here Because he's on the headphones of his friends at school and I don't know how all the every parent's different . Yeah , so I'm trying to at least be like I tend to have a little more relaxed .

Rhett 45:19

I know you're going somewhere with your story .

Justin 45:20

I am , but can we pause it for a second ?

Rhett 45:23

and talk . So think about that when we were kids , the unfiltered talk that we had oh , man kill them kill them , kill them take them out . Boom , boom , boom . Whatever we played , you know we played like I don't want to call it murder because it wasn't murder , but we played cops and robbers and whatever , and I don't think we ever played cowboys and Native . Americans , we played war all the time . Did you notice what I said ? We never played Cowboys and Native Americans .

Rhett 45:46

Oh , I didn't notice that I hate to say this , but we grew up when it was Cowboys and Indians and as a kid I never thought anything less as a derogatory thing , and I know if that is my apologies , but that was the world we lived in . But it was really all this idea about just I don't know man , we just the war was really our big thing where we were like go hide and we had these plastic guns that did not have an orange tip on it .

Rhett 46:06

They looked real , I mean literally , if you think through the parent lens now , like you open up the blinds , you look out . You got these little nine , 10 year olds with guns . That are metal , I'd be calling the police and they look real and it's like what in the world .

Justin 46:19

but that was .

Rhett 46:20

This is new day , normal but like we did that and now on the other side of things , like we are , like I think it's , I don't know we're thinking through the lens and we really be saying we also walk around with real swords , oh man oh , oh , oh , oh , yes , and oh , we want to talk about stupidity .

Rhett 46:37

thank god we didn't kill anybody . We would literally kill ourselves . Yes , we would take a bow and arrow oh , that was so dumb and we would point it in the sky straight up . We'd go into an open land . Yeah , we were smart enough to do that we went to .

Justin 46:50

it was at the farm .

Rhett 46:52

Well , the farm ? No , I remember going elementary school in the dirt parking lot . Oh , okay , if as big as it was for a kid , we thought it was plenty big . Okay , I guess you're right . So we would take those bow and arrows and we would stand right there in the middle , real stuff , pulling them up in the air . Kids if you're listening , do not do this , do not .

Justin 47:09

This is the stupidest thing we do not acknowledge this . This is grace in our life . This is complete grace .

Rhett 47:23

But we would release that bow and arrow or the arrow straight up in the air .

Justin 47:25

Now , granted , these weren't like some power bow , you know , like these ones that could kill a deer . I don't think . Maybe it was . Mine wasn't okay , so we let it go .

Rhett 47:29

Okay , we let it go , shoot it straight up every it was real we shoot it straight up in the air and then all of a sudden it's like russian roulette , with us bow and arrow .

Justin 47:35

Then we would disperse and run from the little circle as wide as we can , hoping to god yes , it doesn't fall on us and you find a spot and you stand still and wait Till it drops , that it doesn't land on you . How stupid were we ? That would have taken us out , rhett . That's the sad thing about it , that was the dumbest thing .

Rhett 47:55

And I think we might have lost all respect for people at this point for our childhood . Or , wow , it's amazing that God can take somebody that's so stupid and make beauty from ashes from them .

Justin 48:06

Well , that's the kind of listeners we have that will see that option .

Rhett 48:07

I hope they do , yeah , but anyway . So yeah , we went outside , we played war , we did that , it was the norm , and we survived and I've tried to .

Justin 48:18

You know that's my natural talking and I'm not meaning anything towards it . But I do have that awareness of I'm trying to be sensitive to other parents and I want my kids to be the kids too that get to hang out with other kids . So I'm just like if I hear like I killed him , I'm like , hey , buddy , well you eliminated him . Yeah , I know .

Justin 48:40

And I get it Because it just makes me feel like that's a better word to use and , honestly , the game that I let them use or play that I actually enjoy and these are my two youngest it's fortnight and one thing I appreciate about fortnight , yeah , is when you do eliminate , it's like it , it's like that little machine . They disappear well , yeah . So it's almost like it really is like you were eliminated from that battle and you come back so so it wasn't like Mortal Kombat .

Justin 49:05

They don't show things like if you're playing another game that might show blood or Mortal Kombat , stuff like that .

Rhett 49:11

You remember the ending of Mortal .

Justin 49:13

Kombat , oh , finish him .

Rhett 49:14

Finish him .

Justin 49:15

And it's like whoa , this is like so morbid and you got to learn how to do the right move that does the fatality .

Rhett 49:23

I honor you for being able to try to choose more life-giving words , because I do think that's important and I think there's a balance to it , obviously . But I do honor you , though , because I do respect that you're trying to keep other parents and their kids in mind , because there are parents that do lean that way and have that , and that's a very honorable thing .

Justin 49:41

Well , I'll take the risk of being too politically correct in this situation . It's good and so , but , but , as I was saying , I'll go to only a certain night . It's usually maybe a Saturday , maybe a Thursday . I'll hand , you know , we'll give them their food , but there's five days we're sitting around the table . I love it what we've been doing lately . Like we normally have conversation , we might , you know , for a season we would pull out , like we had Lance Ingram on our podcast and we would do one of the three , 65 devotions for the family Awesome stuff .

Justin 50:11

Now we've been doing this game . We call it imposter , and I'm , I know one of the boys must've gotten this . I'm not saying we created this , but it's almost like that game that was a , you know , online , called among us , okay , where you basically are the imposter and you're trying not to be found out . So that's a video game , yeah , yeah , so you can . Actually it makes more sense , but we'll sit around the table . We call it imposter , and so if there's six of us , one person basically doesn't play each round . And so how we do it ? We do it with movies , because you have to have an odd number . You've got to have the one person who actually knows who the imposter is Ah okay .

Justin 50:50

So it might be like let's say we want to make the movie the movie's Toy Story but you don't know this . So let's say Summer is not in the game , Okay , she's going to . For some reason we have a theme song when we play this game . Of course you do because you're a creative musician , you've got to elevate the experience .

Rhett 51:09

It is for some reason it's .

Justin 51:10

ACDC

When the Power Goes Out: Finding Connection

Justin 51:11

Thunderstruck Okay .

Justin 51:13

Thunder .

Rhett 51:18

Yeah , it's played at every single sporting event in the world .

Justin 51:22

So that's playing on the table so that there can be secrecy . So Summer's going to call all the boys and me and let's say it's Toy Story . She's going to tell everybody the movie is Toy Story , okay . And by the way , if there's a sequel they can all be in play . So it doesn't matter , it's the franchise Toy Story .

Rhett 51:41

Let's say I'm the imposter , okay , but we don't know you are , but she knows you are .

Justin 51:45

She's going to say to me you're the imposter , and she'll give me . We came up with this idea like give one hint , so that it's somewhat relevant , so you don't give yourself away on the first hint . Yeah , so she'll say you're the imposter , your hint is hat you know , like Woody it might not even be that obvious .

Rhett 52:07

So now we're sitting at the round table . Yeah , but only you , as the imposter know that because of a side conversation . So as you get into now , you're playing with . Now it's all .

Justin 52:17

Nobody knows this . Now , it's all psychology . The imposter is the only one that knows no one has a clue and no one knows who is the imposter . So I wind down like I was born . You know , you got that ACDC song going . We're not born , we fade it down 80s fade out , fade out .

Justin 52:34

Sorry , and it goes to each person . Do you remember that episode ? Oh yeah , and they go to each person and they'll say a hint , and and they'll say a hint , and so we're teaching our kids be vague , you don't want to give away too much , and the whole game you're studying each other . You're watching ? Yeah , it's body language , and after a few rounds .

Rhett 52:49

It's not like you're playing poker . Who's bluffing so fun ?

Justin 52:53

You'll go about three rounds and then , whenever somebody thinks they're ready , they'll call an emergency meeting and begin discussing . So if you're the imposter , you're trying to find who you're accusing to . So it's a fun mind game at the table of the Bradshaw house . That's great . We're like these old psychologists . I love it . Yeah , of course you are , and we are so addicted to this game . For like two weeks that's what's been like on our Kind of hard to play with three people .

Rhett 53:14

I would think yeah , I mean like I'm just Every time you have the group come over .

Justin 53:19

Yeah okay , but it is fun . It's like , well , we have some friends coming over Thursday . I think we'll probably try to play imposter see how it works with another family . Gotcha , but you were talking about how , when the power goes out , it's these moments that we have had such a good time , yeah , and our kids every night , but before that it's like we might give them a little more time to go play . Before bed they're actually saying , oh , can we do imposter tonight ?

Rhett 53:46

Yeah , you're creating moments in this experience together as a family . And there it is . It's fun Like kids want to be with their parents . They really do . They want to enjoy their time with them . And not every moment is going to be enjoyable because , like I , I mean there's discipline , and no child likes to be disciplined .

Justin 54:03

Well , I don't like to be disciplined , but there's life that comes from it .

Rhett 54:06

Thank , god yeah you know , but like , but for the most part like . Kids want to be with their parents and and who doesn't want to be with their parents ? Who want to have fun from time to time and make in your with your brothers and your sister not you , but like you know your family members together . I think that I know we're going to always do that .

Justin 54:23

I think we're going to have a button by the way that we start hitting .

Rhett 54:27

I say that because I don't want people to think Justin has a daughter . I didn't know Justin had a daughter . Where's this person at , you know ?

Justin 54:33

So all that to say um , yeah , man , but that will and it's going to be fun with friends . But we talked and I had someone reach out to me from the last podcast or a couple of podcasts ago that was talking about pillars in leadership and they they were so moved by it and they just wanted to reach out and say , man , that that message you guys spoke about that was you just you nailed it on the stuff that I feel they've been feeling this for a long time and they didn't know how to verbalize it .

Justin 55:03

That's really good and so that was a , that was a reach out , but what I took from that , too , is that investment we were talking about Mario Kart and you know the joke we made but really and truly , these investments that we're actually making . I'm having the time of my life , by the way , yeah , but there are investments that are being made around that table , yeah , and it's not just to have fun now or just to force family time , cause there's nights , too that it's like hey , we're going to hang out and play something , and they're like but I want to go do this , and it's like not tonight , guys , let's yeah .

Justin 55:36

We're going to have some family time , so it's not always like the want to and the get to , but it does turn into the moment of we're investing time and this is going to become the long game we're playing here . The goal is that they're going to want to be back and bring their spouses and come and say well , we got to play imposter with mom and dad tonight .

Rhett 55:56

Yeah , I think that's the I mean , you know . Again , I just think it's important , especially if you're in parenting , just to create moments . It doesn't have to be imposter . It can start off with something simple , wherever it might be , but just to create a moment and figure that out it's going to look different for everybody . Yeah , but for us , man , we , we've started playing cards , um and I want to man , what is the name ?

Rhett 56:16

Um , I want to say rumming , that's what I , and there's so many versions of this you know . Yeah , um , and but anyway , we , we play it and we've had fun , and in fact , my dad and and um and lynn come over and we have a great time with him and we sit there around the car table and he's actually taught my kid , my son , how to play cards so well that he's actually been beating all of us and I'm like , and he's like hey , I'm a card shark , you know ?

Rhett 56:43

yeah , he's learning he's learning how to count cards because my dad kind of your dad knows that world man , your dad the gambler , but even the talk around the table of just kind of giving everybody a hard time , you know , and and so if you're a non-competitive person and you're around competitive people that like to have fun , that might not be fun for you . My wife has learned to be that because she's non-competitive . Oh , as long as we're all having a good time , like no we gotta win and if you don't care to win you know you go be the food server , go make us some snacks you know why

Rhett 57:14

go make us a sandwich . He's not . He's not saying that to you , linda . This is not like hey , get out , like okay , just want to be the person who doesn't care about , who doesn't care about playing .

Justin 57:23

Go contribute to this hangout time . Hey man , go make us a sandwich .

Justin 57:27

Don't go read a book . If you enjoy reading a book , don't go do that .

Justin 57:29

No , we're going to be together as a family , but I need you to go If you're a friend and you're coming over glass of water and add some sugar , please . You know .

Justin 57:46

I'm not trying to throw you into the book , hey you ain't going to play cards .

Justin 57:49

Well , guess what them ?

Justin 57:50

cookies ain't going to bake themselves . Hey , you know those nachos ain't going to get out of that bag by themselves . Baby , why don't you go there pick up a bag of nachos ? Milo's tea don't pour . Throw that case over there in that microwave for me . Do that for me . I mean , my God , it ain't just going to get out of that package in the bowl and in the microwave . Heat it up , man . We need some dip over here .

Justin 58:10

And when you bring that dip to us in our game we bonded with you non-confederate selves and my God , don't bring me a carrot .

Justin 58:27

You can eat something fried . Give me some of those mozzarella cheese sticks . Yeah , man , when we first this side note when we first planned , we were apart when highlands first started . So funny , we were there , very small , and we had this guy who's I'll say his name I mean just throw him , throw him out there . I won't say his name , rusty rusty , I mean last name rhymes with . He was the most life-giving person you've ever met . He would encourage you If he saw you walk in he would say you are a man of God .

Justin 58:49

I mean , he would just Speaking life exhortation , gifting the greatest guy yeah , we would sit at the table and I remember us sitting . I mean , I think it was me , lane Summer and Rusty one day . Sitting at a table at his house , and it's Summer , and Lane on the same team , me and Rusty . Oh man Well , summer's very competitive .

Justin 59:11

Summer's Lane . Of course he's a race car driver , so he's very competitive .

Justin 59:15

Well , they are killing us because , rusty , we would play as spades and he would be like is an ace of spades ? Good , oh man .

Rhett 59:23

And if you don't know that , game .

Justin 59:25

You don't give away your cards .

Rhett 59:26

And you might as well fold Done Game over .

Justin 59:29

Or Summer would play a hand and it's like he could . He could beat her if he wanted to , yeah , and he was like , but I want you to feel good and he would play trash and I'm like Rusty , did you say spades ?

Rhett 59:41

is that what you were , playing spades ?

Justin 59:42

yeah , I'm like hey , rusty , we played a win and he just didn't care . He would have been better to go get that cake ready that's Linda .

Rhett 59:49

That's Linda , but what you know ? What's funny , though ? Don't give away the game what's funny , though , and I'll say this like and you know , I may pay for this- you might reach out to me later and say well , you edit that part of the episode out . No , generally speaking , she's okay if anybody wins but me . She doesn't want me to win and she'll be telling you like yeah , that's funny Because I am like .

Rhett 1:00:10

I think I traumatized her early in our marriage when I was very competitive and I was not self-aware enough to know how like this wasn't a good thing . And so I've grown a lot , and so now I'm like it really I do want to win , but I don't stress it as much as I used to , but I used to be like boom , I won high , you know .

Justin 1:00:32

I'm the best , and it just kind of rub it in everybody's face .

Rhett 1:00:34

I remember me , but I loved , I love . It was fun for me , not so much fun for those who didn't win , so I didn't , of course right , of course , especially and so it was like I don't care who wins , but I don't want him to win . It's kind of like me with alabama football I don't care , I just don't want them to win .

Justin 1:00:52

You know what I mean .

Rhett 1:00:53

Like I was traumatized , you know and so it just is what it is , and and I just don't want them to win so , but we've gotten better , because now we're playing a game to where I'm actually trying to set her up so that she actually can win , and do well , set her up for the win . Because I can play a card and she's the next one in line and typically she's like hmm , thank you . I'm like you're welcome .

Justin 1:01:13

I love you .

Rhett 1:01:13

See , you guys are bonding Because I'm playing a marathon baby , that this game's only going to last so long , but there's going to be life on the other side of this thing .

Justin 1:01:21

if I play it right , Ultimately you're going to score .

Rhett 1:01:25

Ultimately , I'm going to score some way .

Justin 1:01:27

That's the goal .

Rhett 1:01:28

Speaking of marriage yes .

Justin 1:01:30

Yes , Win at life man .

Rhett 1:01:34

All I do is win , win , win , no matter what . I got something on my mind and I'm not going to tell you what it is , but that's called wisdom . You're maturing , I'm maturing . Is it maturing or maturing ? We grew up saying maturing , okay , maturing .

Justin 1:01:51

But I have learned that it sounds a little fancier to say maturing , so I did actually use the corrected way You're maturing .

Rhett 1:01:59

But I am , and so I recognize that life . Life is long and I love my wife and I want to bless her in ways and and I've learned that , and so I deny myself , because that's what the husbands do humility always wins and if , when I humble myself , god exalts me and yeah , he will and he does .

Justin 1:02:15

I mean it's , but it's a principle man . It is obvious if we would just go by god's principles . If you serve you , you will be served .

Rhett 1:02:24

It just happens it does . But when I win now and it's not very much because this game is very hard to win at , but when I do win I win with . I don't hold it over people's head I'm like , man , that was a good game , that was a lot of fun , I'm glad I won and that's about it . So I've just dialed my you know what's the word my outgoingness , like you get on this podcast .

Justin 1:02:46

I've dialed that down from like 100 to like 20 .

Rhett 1:02:49

Yeah , because I know the room at this point .

Justin 1:02:52

I'm teaching , I'll say one of my boys . I won't say which one , but I mean they remind me of me . They are so competitive , like if they don't win there will be tears , like it's because it's that important and I'm like , oh , buddy , I get you . Yeah , I promise , I get you . That makes a lot of sense .

Rhett 1:03:10

Yeah , I was there too , man . I just had to win , and that's a good thing . You just got to learn how to maintain those emotions in a way , and that is a great man . I know some grown adults that don't know how to do that .

Justin 1:03:22

In fact .

Rhett 1:03:22

I mean , I was one of them . Yeah , that's right .

Justin 1:03:24

I mean that's the thing we talked once again about agenda before . It doesn't mean you give up the drive to actually go achieve and you got to keep that . If that's who you are , you're denying your wiring . But there is a way to try to . If you've got the drive to win and achieve , there still has to be the right way to go about it . It's like it goes back to what's the motive

Sports Fandom and Identity

Justin 1:03:49

of this drive . Is your motive pure ?

Justin 1:03:52

And so in athletics go win , Go do all your stuff , but it can't be everything to you Like . If you lose , yeah , grieve a second of it , but remember what you do after that you're impacting those around you .

Rhett 1:04:06

It's having a healthy realization that my identity is not tied to whether I win or lose , because that's not who I am . Who I am comes from a deeper rooted place .

Justin 1:04:15

Yeah In everything . Yeah , I'm not going to cancel a kick six party . I mean a Christmas party after the kick six auburn alabama game happened , like I actually did . Did you really ?

Rhett 1:04:25

oh yeah , are you serious ? I did not know this oh yeah I was living in wautumka , alabama at the time , and so I didn't realize that at all .

Justin 1:04:32

Yeah , I , I , I didn't realize how much I had let the the alabama two-year national championship winning streak affect me , wow . And when we played auburn as most people will know , but you might not know , it's the biggest rival in college football , arguably yeah , and Alabama was up . Auburn came back literally in the last few minutes to tie it up .

Rhett 1:04:54

All we need is a second .

Justin 1:04:56

That's all we need . Alabama was kicking a game-winning field goal , or at least overtime .

Rhett 1:05:01

Fell short .

Justin 1:05:02

Auburn catches it in the end zone , runs it all the way back , wins the game .

Rhett 1:05:07

They weren't expecting anybody to be back there to try to catch a ball . No , and whoever the coach was that made that call . That was a great call . He regrets it , rhett . He regrets it .

Justin 1:05:16

No , I'm kidding , but that stopped Alabama's streak of like . I forgot how many games they had won , going for three national championships in a row , anyway , yeah .

Rhett 1:05:27

I didn't realize it had that great of an impact on you .

Justin 1:05:28

So , to paint that night . How old would you have been ? 34? , that was 2000 . Was that 2000 ?

Justin 1:05:32

Yeah , yeah , probably , yeah , yeah , I mean I was older than I should have been for this reaction to happen . Yeah , but Wow , and so you canceled the party after that . We had a Christmas party that night . People were coming over . We had Michael Bublé in the background . Already Summer's trimming the tree . We've got the brownies in the oven .

Rhett 1:05:51

It's the perfect night . You had some Auburn fans coming over and you didn't want to hear it from them . I can't even remember , oh , it had to have been . If they were all Alabama fans , you would have been fine .

Justin 1:05:57

All I ended like summer . I still remember I'm looking at the flat screen over the fireplace and to the left is our tree . I remember looking at summer and she's looking at me wide-eyed , almost like are you okay ? Oh , wow . And I and I was like I just I just need a minute . And I went into my master bedroom . This is me confessing guys . I went to my master bedroom and I had to pray and I was like Lord , why ? Like ?

Justin 1:06:25

why do I let this ?

Justin 1:06:26

affect me . I'm like these are 18 , 19 , 20 year olds God Like it's just a stupid game and I'm trying to like talk myself out of it , like give me strength , lord , and I go back in the living room . I'm trying to just have a good time and I can't . And I tell Summer I was like can we see if we can push the party till tomorrow night ? And she's so gracious , she said yes .

Justin 1:06:50

Yeah , and we shifted everything to the next night and , rhett , we turned the music off . I sat on the couch and I watched every game to see how do we get Alabama back in this national title .

Rhett 1:07:03

Which they did not , which is every Alabama's like oh , we'll get in there , we can lose five games . We still deserve to win .

Justin 1:07:07

That is my confession that that I realized in that year .

Rhett 1:07:09

I'm like , oh my gosh , what in the world it takes a real man to be that vulnerable over Alabama football the way you just did well , I'm not anymore , yeah what do you mean ?

Justin 1:07:20

I'm not like oh , I'm not like that anymore . No , you got set free .

Justin 1:07:23

This is one of those moments it still pains me to lose . But my gosh , I'm not . I mean , that was an epic night we had ready for people .

Rhett 1:07:29

And here I am on the other end of this thing . I'll remember where I was watching my tv , hit my knees screaming and laughing as hard as I could . I might as well been on guardians of the galaxy cosmic rewind , rewind . It was amazing . I have a next-door neighbor who's a veteran and a die-hard Alabama fan Straight-up redneck , and he was proud of it and he just always trashed Auburn and always spoke all this crap . And we had no reason to win and we won . I walked out the front door .

Justin 1:07:57

I literally walked out the front door of my house and I walked out the front door of my house and I screamed to the top of my lungs because I knew he could hear me through his house and I I was like you know , come on , that's what I'm talking , referencing that's earlier deal about oh yeah , oh yeah , oh yeah , sore winter , yeah , so I wouldn't do that now .

Rhett 1:08:17

Maybe , um , I don't know , we'll see . But and and I literally ran around the house outside , came back in , like it was every emotion I could possibly express in excitement I wanted him to hear , because , you know , it was just and my wife's like what in the heck is happening ? And at that point I think it hit her because she's from Texas she realized , wow , this has a hold on Rhett in a way that we need to pray for him on the other end .

Justin 1:08:40

Something epic just happened clearly .

Rhett 1:08:44

But , like you know , if you're an Auburn fan , that happens once in a generation , so you know we got to take it right . At least I'm realism , I'm realistic .

Justin 1:08:50

But you know , when we finally found freedom on our two spectrums ?

Justin 1:08:54

Rhett we came back together .

Justin 1:08:56

I mean , it was like the party could start again . And it was seriously like well , I'm five , six .

Rhett 1:09:01

I'm just now . No , here's the truth . I'm just not . I mean , I'm still an Auburn football fan , but like , come on , baby , let's go basketball . We'll take it where we can get it . That is a huge big deal that they are like number one in crushing everybody in their way . So here's what's about to happen . As we land a plane on this episode , justin is going to leave the house kindly and , uh , we'll see if we have a podcast for next week . Okay , we might need a couple of days . We might have to . We might have to yeah I'm just kidding .

Justin 1:09:28

No , totally that is not we we have smiles on our face . This is an episode that feels more like the monday morning talk show , so you're welcome . Yeah , you're welcome .

Justin 1:09:36

We need the button five , six , seven , eight , happy birthday to you .

Rhett 1:09:43

Hey guys , it's been fun having you on the ride today . We cannot wait for next week .

Justin 1:09:47

God bless , oh man , this is a good time On the next episode of Armchair Authentic . I love Starbucks , but sometimes you got to hold just a bit of a protest and I'm not protesting them forever . I'll be back , I'll go . You know we have a small group there .

Rhett 1:10:05

I'm kind of like a what , what now ? What , what happened ? What did you read ? What did you see ? What am I unaware of ?

Justin 1:10:11

It might , it really just might be my own little tantrum .

Justin 1:10:13

I just need to get it out of the way and I'm good .

Justin 1:10:15

And I'll probably be back tomorrowrum is Okay , so everybody can hear it out there . Starbucks has gone to this new policy , so if you're in their dining area to sit down , make it your third place where you just chill .

Rhett 1:10:27

Yeah .

Justin 1:10:28

They want to go more to porcelain mugs .

Rhett 1:10:30

So are they forcing the porcelain mug on you or do they give you the option to continue to have the cup ?

Justin 1:10:35

You forfeited your refill , basically , unless you do a porcelain cup . So my boycott for a day . Yeah , I want to see how long this goes and I'm not going to dare you on this , because I've learned .

Rhett 1:10:45

I've learned , guys if you dare Justin on this , let's see , I bet you .

Justin 1:10:49

I bet you won't last a day .

Rhett 1:10:50

Like no , seven years later .

Justin 1:10:52

No , I don't want to give up Starbucks . We're really looking forward to that conversation . If you're enjoying these episodes of Armchair Authentic , would you do something for us ? Would you rate and review our podcast ? It would mean so much to us . Thank you Well , friends , we're looking forward to our next episode next Monday on Armchair Authentic .